Pete Hegseth: Fox Broadcaster-turned-secretary-of-defense of the most powerful armed forces in the world. Scary. He seems to always have had a preference for shiny, medium dark blue suits. But lately ā Iām not sure when it started ā he adorns his suits with a neatly folded, American flag handkerchief in his breast pocket. It turns out that has a name. Pocket square. Yeah, I had to look it up.
Who else has taken to PDAāing the American flag?
Part of the mission of The Civil Conversations Project is to help you identify racists at a glance. Both men above, have proven themselves to be racist. Over the years Iāve noticed that declarations of extreme patriotism are always part and parcel of racism.

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I was intrigued about the relationship of those who proclaimed themselves to be paragons of patriotism and their simultaneous embrace of racism. So I poked around a bit and asked Google, AI, and DuckDuckGo what is the relationship between ultra patriotism and racism. Just because I had noticed it didnāt mean that I understood it.
AIās brief response: āWhite supremacy is often framed as a patriotic ideology by its proponents, who claim to defend a perceived traditional American identity. Extreme patriots often hold racist beliefs as part of their ideology, which includes exclusionary and dehumanizing views about non-white groups. This racism is frequently tied to conspiracy theories and a perceived existential threat to their identity and way of life, leading to a blend of antigovernment sentiments and racial superiority beliefs.ā

The Southern Poverty Law Center had more in-depth comments: āWhen the so-called āPatriotā movement burst onto the national scene in the early 1990s, it spread like fire, fueled by resentment of the government and by events at Ruby Ridge and Waco. Even after the 1995 Oklahoma City bombing, the number of militias and similar groups expanded, hitting an all-time high of 858 groups in 1996.
āWhat weāre seeing now is ⦠the re-emerging notion of this country as Anglo-American, a white country,ā says Leonard Zeskind, a longtime analyst of the extreme right who sees strengthening radicalism. āThat idea is being put forward in a mainstream way, and that has not happened successfully since at least before World War II.āā

If you canā¦
The American Heritage Dictionary defines patriotism this way:
noun
Love of and devotion to one's country.
Love of country; devotion to the welfare of one's country; the virtues and actions of a patriot; the passion which inspires one to serve one's country.
Love of country; devotion to the welfare of one's compatriots; the virtues and actions of a patriot; the passion which inspires one to serve one's country.
But that doesnāt seem quite right, so I poked around some more. AI defines āExtreme patriotismā this way: āExtreme patriotism is often referred to as superpatriotism or ultranationalism, characterized by excessive favoritism towards one's own country, often leading to a sense of superiority over others. This form of patriotism can manifest in aggressive nationalism, where individuals prioritize their nation's interests above all else, sometimes through violent means.ā
Closer maybe. But when I see an āextreme patriotā, or whatever one would call the patriotic sorts on display at the January 6 insurrection, what I see is not so much a love of country or countrymen, but a love of White countrymen. And not even all White countrymen. White countrymen that share their narrow and bigoted values.
I kept poking. At a rally in 2018 Trump thrilled the crowd by declaring, āYou know what I am? Iām a nationalist, OK? Iām a nationalist. Nationalist! Use that word! Use that word!ā
White supremacists called it the greatest thing since Birth of a Nation the movie glorifying the KKKK and unarguably the most racist movie ever produced in the United States
Nationalist?!? I turned to the Southern Poverty Law Center again: āWhite nationalist groups espouse white supremacist or white separatist ideologies, often focusing on the alleged inferiority of nonwhite groups. They frequently claim that white people are persecuted by society and even the victims of a racial genocide. Their primary goal is to create a white ethnostate. Groups listed in a variety of other categories, including Ku Klux Klan, neo-Confederate, neo-Nazi, racist skinhead and Christian Identity, could also be fairly described as white nationalist.ā
Poking around some more trying to understand how it could be that so many people who claim to be patriots, which would seem to be an embrace of the, āAll people are created equalā cornerstone of American democracy, seemingly have a deep enmity and hatred of people who do not share their lack of melanin.
I found this (abbreviated) piece in the NY Times. Although it doesnāt quite get around to really explaining ultra patriots, a.k.a. white nationalist racist, it confirms what I knew. Theyāre racist. It probably doesnāt explain whytheyāre races because how to explain why anybody is racist, ultra patriot or not. But in working towards my commitment to help you identify racist, you now have one more arrow in your quiver. When you encounter an extreme patriot, be concerned. You might be encountering somebody who loves America. They just donāt love Americans. They donāt love you, and they certainly donāt love me.
And right here Iām going to admit to some deep and ongoing confusion. People keep scratching their heads and wondering aloud, āHow did we get here?ā To paraphrase Bill Clintonās 1992 campaign phrase, āItās the economy, stupidā ā¦Itās the racism.
Long before he glided down his golden elevator to proclaim the start of his campaign and that Mexicans were rapist and murderers, Donald Trump was a racist.
Long before he conceived the lie that Barack Obama wasnāt eligible to be president and later, that he wasnāt our real president, because he wasnāt born in America, Donald Trump was a racist.
Long before he would not rent any of his 13,000 New York City Apartments to Black Americans until the department of Justice got involved, Donald Trump was a racist. And then in 2016 and again in 2024 America voted a person that they absolutely knew was a racist, especially the second time around, into the oval office.
Many have tried, but no politician, not even George Wallace, has been as adept at picking at Americaās raw, oozing, pus-filled, malodorous wound of racism as Donald Trump has. All the things that people seem to hate, jump up and down and rant about, the core of every one of those things is Donald Trumpās racism.
How did we get here? āItās the racismā¦ā
By Amanda Taub
Nov. 21, 2016
A question has been posed in a puzzled whisper in many of the nationās living rooms and newsrooms ever since Donald J. Trumpās triumph in this monthās presidential election: What, exactly, is white nationalism?
Self-proclaimed white nationalists have happily embraced Mr. Trumpās victory and, particularly, his choice of Stephen K. Bannon as chief strategist, as a win for their agenda. A barrage of groups that fight discrimination and hate speech have, in turn, criticized Mr. Bannonās appointment, warning that his embrace of the āalt-rightā movement was little more than an attempt to rebrand racism and white nationalism into something palatable enough for mass consumption.
And much of the rest of the country has been left to wonder what this unfamiliar term actually means.
While white nationalism certainly overlaps with white supremacy and racism, many political scientists say it is a distinct phenomenon ā one that was a powerful but often-unseen force during the presidential election and will most likely remain a potent factor in American and European politics in coming years.
Eric Kaufmann, a professor of politics at Birkbeck University in London, has spent years studying the ways that ethnicity intersects with politics. While most researchers in that field focus on ethnic minorities, Professor Kaufmann does the opposite: He studies the behavior of ethnic majorities, particularly whites in the United States and Britain.
White nationalism, he said, is the belief that national identity should be built around white ethnicity, and that white people should therefore maintain both a demographic majority and dominance of the nationās culture and public life.
So, like white supremacy, white nationalism places the interests of white people over those of other racial groups. White supremacists and white nationalists both believe that racial discrimination should be incorporated into law and policy.
Some will see the distinction between white nationalism and white supremacy as a semantic sleight of hand. But although many white supremacists are also white nationalists, and vice versa, Professor Kaufmann says the terms are not synonyms: White supremacy is based on a racist belief that white people are innately superior to people of other races; white nationalism is about maintaining political and economic dominance, not just a numerical majority or cultural hegemony.
For a long time, he said, white nationalism was less an ideology than the default presumption of American life. Until quite recently, white Americans could easily see the nation as essentially an extension of their own ethnic group.
But the countryās changing demographics, the civil rights movement and a push for multiculturalism in many quarters mean that white Americans are now confronting the prospect of a nation that is no longer built solely around their own identity.
For many white people, of course, the growing diversity is something to celebrate. But for others it is a source of stress. The white nationalist movement has drawn support from that latter group. Its supporters argue that the United States should protect its white majority by sharply limiting immigration, and perhaps even by compelling nonwhite citizens to leave.
ā⦠compelling nonwhite citizens to leave?ā Whatā¦like ICE raids?
Or to dumb down all of this high falutinā jibber jabberā¦āItās the racism...ā
Thank you Mr. Hare for this article in which, among other things, you give clear examples of how the Extreme Patriots have appropriated the American Flag as their means of self-identification within popular culture. I have also noticed this and have given it much thought.
To be honest, I am less interested in how or why the right and far right have made the American flag their exclusive icon. What I am more interested in is why did everyone else allow it to happen? In my circle of liberal (sometimes very liberal) group, I have seen a departure from any display of personal patriotism for fear of being confused for an extreme patriot. God forbid we send the wrong message, right? So, we don't stand for the Pledge of Allegiance in public spaces, we don't hang our flag on Independance Day or any other day, we don't cry a little when the national anthem is sung. In some respects, we have stepped into the shadows for fear of being labeled as jingoists. And, the result of this fear, those we stand against use this as proof that we are not patriots at all; we don't love our country; we are exactly what they claim we are. What a shame.
So, what are we to do? Let's look at what some fearless people have done. For example, I can't help but applaud the Metropolitan African Episcopal Methodist Church in Washington DC who were awarded the trademark for the "Proud Boys" thus disallowing it's use for racist, ignorant, purposes. Well played. Wouldn't it be better to take a cue from them and take the flag back? Wouldn't it be great if everyone flew one in their yard or office? Then, how could you tell who is who? And, maybe it wouldn't matter so much to the current group of flag bullies when everyone was participating. Maybe it would, in fact, matter more. It's worth contemplating.
I can't help but reflect on MLK Jr.'s words that he scribbled on the edges of a newspaper while serving time in the Birmingham Jail. He speaks directly to the people who choose to stand with the cause but do nothing to promote the cause. He says, " Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection." If you haven't his letter recently, I would encourage you to do so because it remains relevant. Just allowing these small steps to happen without standing up and saying something or doing something further bolsters this group's sense of entitlement to the one thing that should bring us together. MLK spoke to this too, "Anyone who lives inside the United States can never be considered an outsider anywhere within its bounds." I, for one, am tired of feeling like an outsider in my own country. If I show patriotism, I am shunned by people with whom I share ideals. What a mess.
All Americans should wave their flag freely and with pride. I do believe it stands for freedom and equality and all the other stuff the Constitution illustrates. It cannot be appropriated by one group who choose to rewrite its narrative. Take it back. Rejoin the narrative.
With regard for the work you do,
Leah G.